| Perfectionism is not about doing one's best, or about pursuing excellence; it's about the emotional conviction that perfection is the only route to personal acceptance. It is the emotional conviction that by being perfect, one can finally be acceptable as a person. - Dr. Tom Greenspon |
Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., LP, LMFT
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Perfectionism can sap emotional energy, cause difficulties in relationships, and
even interfere with performance. Perfectionism is not about doing one’s best, or
about pursuing excellence; it’s about the desire to be perfect, the fear of imperfection,
and the emotional conviction that perfection is the only route to acceptability as a
person. Whether you have concerns about children or partners, find out what
perfectionism is, where it comes from, and what concrete steps can be taken to
launch a recovery process by building an environment of acceptance.
BIO
Tom Greenspon is a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Marriage and Family
Therapist, in private practice in Minneapolis. He earned a B.A. from Yale and a Ph.D.
in psychology from the University of Illinois in 1968. After a postdoctoral fellowship at
the University of Rochester, NY, he joined the faculty of the Medical Center at the
University of Alabama in Birmingham, where he was involved in teaching, research,
and counseling until moving to the Twin Cities in 1977. Tom lectures and writes on a
variety of topics, including couples' and family relationships, and the emotional
needs of gifted children and adults. He is a member of several professional
organizations, he has authored a monograph on adolescent-adult relationships for
the Unitarian Universalist Association, entitled Human Connections, and a number
of his articles have appeared in professional journals. His book, Freeing Our
Families From Perfectionism, has won the National Parenting Publications Gold
Award and a Parents' Choice Award.
Tom is married to Barbara C. Greenspon, M.A., his partner in the private practice of
psychotherapy with individuals, couples, and families.Tom and Barbara are former
co-presidents of the Minnesota Council for the Gifted and Talented and served on the
Minnesota State Advisory Committee for Gifted. They are former program
psychological consultants for the Concordia Language Villages. Tom is the recipient
of the 1998 Minnesota Council for the Gifted and Talented Award for Distinguished
Service to Gifted Individuals.
RECENT PUBLICATIONS:
Greenspon, T.S. (In preparation) Making sense of being smart: Gifted self identity
and emotional wellbeing.
—— (In preparation). Making sense of error: A view of the origins and treatment of
perfectionism.
—— (In press). Desire, vulnerability, and interweaving worlds of experience: An
intersubjective systems sensibility in couples’ therapy. Group.
—— (2007) What to do when "good enough" isn't good enough: The real deal on
perfectionism. Minneapolis: Free Spirit Publishing.
—— (2006) Test phobia, depression, and a core identity of giftedness: Jason’s story.
Counseling and Guidance Division Newsletter, 2, (1) 1-2, National Association for
Gifted Children.
—— (2006) Getting beyond perfectionism. Gifted Education Communicator, 37, (1),
30-33.
—— (2004). Being me and fitting in: The dilemma of giftedness. Duke Gifted Letter
4, (3) 1-2.
—— (2002) Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism. Minneapolis: Free Spirit
Publishing.
—— (2000). Perfectionism: An Intersubjective View. Psa Today 3 (4) Psychoanalytic
Foundation of Minnesota.
—— (2000). “Healthy perfectionism” is an oxymoron! Reflections on the psychology
of perfectionism and the sociology of science. The Journal of Secondary Gifted
Education, XI, 197-208.
—— (2000). The self experience of the gifted person: theory and definitions. Roeper
Review, 22, 176-181.
—— (1998). The gifted self: Its role in development and emotional health. Roeper
Review, 20, 162-167
Plucker, J.A., Robinson, N.M., Greenspon, T.S., Feldhusen, J.F., McCoach, D.B., and
Subotnik, R.F. (2004). Its not how the pond makes you feel, but rather how high you
can jump. American Psychologist, 59, (4), 268-269.
Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., LP, LMFT
P.O. Box 16325, Minneapolis, MN 55416-032
even interfere with performance. Perfectionism is not about doing one’s best, or
about pursuing excellence; it’s about the desire to be perfect, the fear of imperfection,
and the emotional conviction that perfection is the only route to acceptability as a
person. Whether you have concerns about children or partners, find out what
perfectionism is, where it comes from, and what concrete steps can be taken to
launch a recovery process by building an environment of acceptance.
BIO
Tom Greenspon is a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Marriage and Family
Therapist, in private practice in Minneapolis. He earned a B.A. from Yale and a Ph.D.
in psychology from the University of Illinois in 1968. After a postdoctoral fellowship at
the University of Rochester, NY, he joined the faculty of the Medical Center at the
University of Alabama in Birmingham, where he was involved in teaching, research,
and counseling until moving to the Twin Cities in 1977. Tom lectures and writes on a
variety of topics, including couples' and family relationships, and the emotional
needs of gifted children and adults. He is a member of several professional
organizations, he has authored a monograph on adolescent-adult relationships for
the Unitarian Universalist Association, entitled Human Connections, and a number
of his articles have appeared in professional journals. His book, Freeing Our
Families From Perfectionism, has won the National Parenting Publications Gold
Award and a Parents' Choice Award.
Tom is married to Barbara C. Greenspon, M.A., his partner in the private practice of
psychotherapy with individuals, couples, and families.Tom and Barbara are former
co-presidents of the Minnesota Council for the Gifted and Talented and served on the
Minnesota State Advisory Committee for Gifted. They are former program
psychological consultants for the Concordia Language Villages. Tom is the recipient
of the 1998 Minnesota Council for the Gifted and Talented Award for Distinguished
Service to Gifted Individuals.
RECENT PUBLICATIONS:
Greenspon, T.S. (In preparation) Making sense of being smart: Gifted self identity
and emotional wellbeing.
—— (In preparation). Making sense of error: A view of the origins and treatment of
perfectionism.
—— (In press). Desire, vulnerability, and interweaving worlds of experience: An
intersubjective systems sensibility in couples’ therapy. Group.
—— (2007) What to do when "good enough" isn't good enough: The real deal on
perfectionism. Minneapolis: Free Spirit Publishing.
—— (2006) Test phobia, depression, and a core identity of giftedness: Jason’s story.
Counseling and Guidance Division Newsletter, 2, (1) 1-2, National Association for
Gifted Children.
—— (2006) Getting beyond perfectionism. Gifted Education Communicator, 37, (1),
30-33.
—— (2004). Being me and fitting in: The dilemma of giftedness. Duke Gifted Letter
4, (3) 1-2.
—— (2002) Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism. Minneapolis: Free Spirit
Publishing.
—— (2000). Perfectionism: An Intersubjective View. Psa Today 3 (4) Psychoanalytic
Foundation of Minnesota.
—— (2000). “Healthy perfectionism” is an oxymoron! Reflections on the psychology
of perfectionism and the sociology of science. The Journal of Secondary Gifted
Education, XI, 197-208.
—— (2000). The self experience of the gifted person: theory and definitions. Roeper
Review, 22, 176-181.
—— (1998). The gifted self: Its role in development and emotional health. Roeper
Review, 20, 162-167
Plucker, J.A., Robinson, N.M., Greenspon, T.S., Feldhusen, J.F., McCoach, D.B., and
Subotnik, R.F. (2004). Its not how the pond makes you feel, but rather how high you
can jump. American Psychologist, 59, (4), 268-269.
Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., LP, LMFT
P.O. Box 16325, Minneapolis, MN 55416-032
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